Many people will have observed the Real Housewives series of programmes or seen the media and magazine coverage of their antics and lifestyles. The tales of those’real housewives’ and WAGs may fill us with a combination of horror, envy and disdain as we see their reported options and excessive ways, particularly as they are often seen as role models for young women. We may speculate that their outrageous behaviour is done to keep public attention and help fortify their celebrity status.
But if we dig a bit below the surface, behind the glamour and glitz, we could see that actual housewives have their particular concerns, issues and anxieties. Indeed, some are living out personal emergencies, making life-changing decisions as well as with their time on the show to raise their public profile and gain exposure for their own existing companies.
Oftentimes’Real Housewives’ can appear detached from reality and normality, residing in a continual flurry of visits to expensive shops, restaurants and beauty salons. Maintaining such a high-profile lifestyle involves plenty of pressure to maintain appearances and be regarded as living the fairytale existence. Being photographed partying, drinking cocktails, maybe spending their husband or partner’s cash in a whimsical self-indulgent flurry of activity, bickering over trivia, seeming to sulk if they are not treated to appropriate gifts or get what they want can make them appear spoilt, selfish and childish.
We’ve no doubt noticed in magazines and on social media how lots of the younger WAGs and Real Housewives appear to look exactly the same, morphing into each other with identi-kit hairstyles, dress designs, breast size, sporting smooth, wrinkle-free faces and pouting lips. Frequently one is indistinguishable from the other in a group photograph. This may be their goal, providing reassurance that they’re doing it right, after the perfect guidelines to be part of this elite, exclusive group, much like young kids who need to wear the very same brands so that they feel they belong.
However, these choices can indicate insecurity about using an individual look and identity. If they looked or behaved differently what would be the consequences, would they be okay, good enough? They may live in constant dread of their appearance changing, of putting on a little weight, of finding a grey hair or the smallest wrinkle. How could someone find the time to retain their personality and identity whilst still maintaining constant surveillance over every aspect of their image. Being the perfect wife, mother, woman means never really relaxing or letting go of hands, otherwise things may slip and someone else may be there, ready to step into their shoes.
Whenever we choose to judge someone else it’s inevitably done from our own standpoint, but when we go through tough times, difficult emotions and pain it is a really personal, relative experience. If we dismiss or belittle another individual’s problems, attempts or situation because of their apparent good luck, attractive appearance, wealth, status or perceived lucky breaks we are doing ourselves and them a disservice. Few people are so secure and confident in ourselves and our self-belief, so emotionally resilient that we remain unaffected by the hardships life sometimes throws our way. Deep down most of us want love, kindness and approval; we crave reassurance that we are okay.
As a true Housewife there is continual pressure to look the part and never age. Maintaining this has to become onerous, tedious and exhausting at times. Every aspect of their life, their wardrobe, personal fitness sessions and remedies can fill every day, becoming a fulltime job. Frequently everyone else has an opinion, wants to give their advice, become part of the group, so presenting a magazine/Stepford wife persona, living the fantasy.
Every so often a Real Housewife is seen to step away from the lure of fame and leave the limelight behind, or they decide to use it to their benefit and produce a charitable or business initiative, create a product, write a book, use their position as a force for good. Then you will see her transition and become more than her public persona. In leaving behind her character from the show she can reclaim her name, establish her identity and be recognised for her talents and attributes in her own right, no longer part of the brand! Maybe she’ll contact Melbourne FL Wildlife Removal for wildlife issues.