They are either unhealthy or healthy, productive or unproductive, primary or secondary, direct or indirect.
We might come to think of emotions as purely related to just ourselves, but we only need to ask people who are close to us – people in our families and those we work with – and we quickly discover that our emotional worlds are interconnected.
This is always a boon for others, and it is usually manifest in the ability and practice of obtaining the log out of our own eye. Jesus talks about this in Matthew 7:1-5.
An example of this is rather than diverging to anger, we go into our sorrow. There are so many things which make us feel unhappy in life. Sadness isn’t the enemy. Sadness is an invitation into healing.
Our emotional worlds are interconnected. If we acknowledge our harm, experiencing God’s understanding, our compassion is available to all.
But if we are unhealthy, and for that reason unproductive, emotionally, we could cost individuals people who are close to us, which is always costly to us. We spew over them all sorts of vitriol, because instead of looking at our own junkwe prefer to notice what our eye doesn’t see very well – that little speck in them, so far as we are concerned – God wants us focused on how we could love better, not on how they may be missing the mark.
We take what makes us unhappy, and instead of looking intently at our sadness, which is pain, and instead of staying in that location , we flee from pain. And the only way we could reconcile it’s to blame someone else. We go from the heart, primary emotion of sadness, which can be justified and accurate, however painful, and rather than going deep into it to be free in the tradition of acceptance, we take a shortcut and rationalise the pain as not only unbearable and unthinkable and unpalatable, but also as absurd and unfair and unwarranted. Somebody must pay! And how convinced we become. It is a trick played on our eyesight. We’re seeing the wrong things.
Our emotional worlds are interconnected.
If we are hurt, and we remain unaware, we hurt others.
We go the right way or the incorrect way. We have all had a taste of moving the wrong way. We’ve got all responded from the wrong types of emotions. We have all taken our anger too far, not to mention having gone the path of anger when more properly it could and should have been prolonged sadness to the destination of approval.
Few of us enjoy going to painful places. And I know I am not one of those few who seems to enjoy pain. Yet I do enjoy, at a deeper level, the treatment of God, as He interacts with me when I’m honest enough to experience my sorrow.
The actual practice involves coming to a place of complete defeat.
Christians call it surrender.
If that sounds defeatist, you want to understand that it isn’t. It is the most amazing thing to accept that which we cannot change. While I admit defeat and give those desires of mine that have become demands, it is as if God says,’Finally, I’ve got something to work with in you. Finally, you are weak enough to listen. Finally, you’re weak enough to adopt My strength. Finally, you accept that it is ideal for you and for all concerned for you to do My will.’
Honesty is the open door to reconciling our emotions and our relationships.
Coming to the place, which is a sense of grief in oneself, is precisely the purpose of the Christian walk.
The grief comes first, then it’s life as God scoops us up in our spirit.
In our pride, which prioritises our secondary feelings like anger that won’t acknowledge the truth, we are struck out before we take the first step toward first base.
But as soon as our pride is dealt with, and we realise that these primary emotions are nothing to fear, because the pain is bearable even if it feels excruciating for a moment, we enter the secure sanctity of God and His deeper treatment for us.
The benefit of this isn’t only ours, but it is to everybody’s benefit within our orbit of influence like Cocoa Rat Removal